Mendekati bermaksud menghampiri atau berada bersama-sama manakala menjauhi bermaksud tidak suka bersama atau cuba mengelak daripada berjumpa dengan mereka. Jika perkara ini dirujukkan kepada guru maka seseorang murid itu perlulah menghampiri guru dalam proses pembelajaran. Mereka yang suka menjauhi guru ialah mereka yang tidak berminat untuk belajar dan tidak mahu dibimbing oleh guru.
Seseorang murid seharusnya mendekati guru berdasarkan butiran berikut:
• Guru sebagai sumber ilmu: Kita datang ke sekolah untuk menuntut ilmu. Walaupun ilmu itu berada di mana-mana tetapi peranan dan tunjuk ajar guru amat diperlukan untuk memberi lebih pemahaman kepada kita. Tanpa ilmu kita ibarat kapal belayar di tengah lautan tanpa nakhoda. Sudah tentu ia akan terumbang-ambing dan mungkin juga akan tenggelam dihempas ombak.
• Guru sebagai pembimbing: Setiap murid harus dibimbing setiap hari. Walaupun kita diminta berdikari tetapi bimbingan daripada guru amat diperlukan kerana guru ialah pengganti ibu bapa ketika disekolah.
• Guru sebagai penyelesai masalah: Guru mempunyai pelbagi tugas dan kemahiran. Contohnya menjaga disiplin pelajar, memberi motivasi dan kaunseling, mengajar, melatih aktiviti sukan atau aktiviti kebudayaan. Oleh itu jika kita rajin berdamping dengan guru bermakna kita akan dapat berbagai pengalaman dan kemahiran untuk menjadi pelajar cemerlang dalam akademik dan ko-kurikulum.
• Guru sebagai rakan: Guru juga ialah insan yang mempunyai perasaan serta suka berkawan. Oleh itu pada masa tertentu guru boleh dijadikan rakan yang mampu memahami kehendak dan masalah yang dihadapi oleh murid-murid. Walaupun guru dianggap sebagai rakan namun mereka perlu dihormati dan segala arahan guru haruslah diamalkan sepanjang masa.
• Guru sebagai penyuluh cahaya: Ungkapan ini bermaksud guru sentiasa memberi bimbingan yang membolehkan murid-murid mendapat kejayaan bukan sahaja dalam bidang akademik tetapi dalam juga segala aspek kehidupan murid tersebut.
Setelah mengetahui betapa besarnya peranan guru serta peluang yang kita boleh perolehi, maka janganlah kita menjauhi guru tetapi kita perlu sentiasa mendekati mereka. Jika menghadapi sebarang masalah kita sewajarnya menghubungi guru untuk mendapat panduan yang sebaiknya daripada mereka. Jangan sekali-kali membenci atau memarahi mereka. Anggaplah mereka itu sebagai ikon ke arah kejayaan diri kita.
selamat hari raya
selamat hari raya pada umat islam seluruh Malaysia dan khasnya pada kawan-kawan.Moga sihat selalu..
The Pray......
First Prayer
Lord,
Thanks be to you for the hope for the better future that keeps us going.
Please help us to remember to be thankful for all that we have to be thankful here in the present.
We often feel like we know what is going on. You humble us by telling us that we don't. You know what is going on, and it is in accordance with thy will for our lives. Thy will be done.
We hope our lives will be good and filled with blessings from you.
Bless us as befits thy will.
Forgive me. Help me to forgive others. Heal me. Heal others.
Guide me.
You are great - more than I can possibly imagine.
Thy will be done.
Amen.
Second Prayer
Lord,
I am not yet what you would want to perfect me into. I pray that day by day you would get me closer, and each day, close enough to meet the challenges of that day.
Thank you for hope for the future, and help me be contented with the present. I have been blessed by you substantially in the present and I pray that I might not take it for granted, but continue to thank you as is your due, and to hope and pray for the continuation of such blessings.
Thy will be done.
Guide me.
You are great.
Thy will be done.
Amen.
Lord,
Thanks be to you for the hope for the better future that keeps us going.
Please help us to remember to be thankful for all that we have to be thankful here in the present.
We often feel like we know what is going on. You humble us by telling us that we don't. You know what is going on, and it is in accordance with thy will for our lives. Thy will be done.
We hope our lives will be good and filled with blessings from you.
Bless us as befits thy will.
Forgive me. Help me to forgive others. Heal me. Heal others.
Guide me.
You are great - more than I can possibly imagine.
Thy will be done.
Amen.
Second Prayer
Lord,
I am not yet what you would want to perfect me into. I pray that day by day you would get me closer, and each day, close enough to meet the challenges of that day.
Thank you for hope for the future, and help me be contented with the present. I have been blessed by you substantially in the present and I pray that I might not take it for granted, but continue to thank you as is your due, and to hope and pray for the continuation of such blessings.
Thy will be done.
Guide me.
You are great.
Thy will be done.
Amen.
Decision Making...
Decision Making
In his earlier writings, Ellis (1962) does not explicitly talk about a framework for making decisions, but he does argue rather convincingly for a life-style based on a long-range, social hedonism. All of us should guiltlessly seek out and enjoy harmless physical sensations (such as sex and gustatory pleasures); but, because we will probably not die tomorrow, some degree of moderation in our eating, drinking, and merrymaking may be a safer course of action.
In addition to stressing the concept of future consequences of our actions, Ellis emphasizes the equality between self-interest and social interest; that is, what is good for us is also good for our culture: "There is a very good answer to the question why one should love one's neighbor, or at least why one should take care not to harm him: namely, that only in so doing is one likely to build the kind of society in which one would best live oneself" (1962, p. 323). This doctrine is, of course, akin to the classic economic theory of "enlightened self-interest." By paying his workers five dollars per day, Henry Ford ensured they would have enough money to buy his automobiles.
But though Ellis does present a philosophy on which all decisions to act ought to be grounded, his credo is relatively abstract, so the dictates of what specifically constitutes rational behavior are open to wide interpretation. Furthermore, in his classic text Ellis (1962) does not provide the counselor with a technology or even a procedural description for helping clients resolve a decision.
In a more recent book, The Civilized Couple's Guide to Extra-Marital Adventure, which was designed for lay reading (no pun intended), Ellis (1973) addresses these issues indirectly. We are told, for example, that "civilized adultery" may be a very rational activity. In fact the opening chapter is entitled "Extramarital adventure: Almost everybody is doing it." In a subsequent chapter ("To be or not to be an extramarital adventurer: That is the question") Ellis examines a number of factors to consider before making such a decision. These include gauging and analyzing your motives, dealing with feelings of shame and guilt (You shouldn't have any; they're irrational!), and using a "hedonistic calculus" in which facts are considered along with the advantages and disadvantages of each alternative. Finally, should one decide to embark on a course of extramarital adventure, one must make another decisionshould one be honest with one's spouse? After marshaling the opinions of numerous experts, Ellis generally recommends "no" (for reasons that, incidentally, may or may not be entirely rational).
Thus Ellis does recommend engaging in a number of preparatory steps prior to making a decision. The gathering of relevant information and the consideration of advantages and disadvantages are components that tie Ellis's views to those of most other decision theorists. But though some of the components may be present, the process is rather incomplete and unsystematic. No formal sequence of counselor activities is provided.
Ellis does apparently allow for the possibility of more than one "rational" choice. However, it is rather difficult to read his book on extramarital sex and come away with the notion that monogamy could ever be anything but a stifling compromise.
Finally, there is the matter of intrusive counselor values--a factor that cannot be dismissed as irrational drivel (see chapter 6). Ellis's system demands that the therapist directly attack the client's irrational beliefs, a procedure most counselors--behaviorally inclined or otherwise-would support from a cost- perspective. Although the irrationality of certain client self-statements may be obvious to everyone, just what constitutes a rational substitute may not be at all clear. Ellis is not above advice giving or arguing for a particular alternative such as secrecy from one's spouse in the matter of extramarital sex. But Ellis's utilities may differ widely from those of his clients and other rational emotive counselors
Essentially, then, Ellis has provided the counselor with a very useful framework for removing clients from discomforting emotional states. Although his conceptualizations have stimulated much behavioral counseling theory, research, and practice, his work only indirectly and imperfectly addresses the topic of decision-making counseling.
In his earlier writings, Ellis (1962) does not explicitly talk about a framework for making decisions, but he does argue rather convincingly for a life-style based on a long-range, social hedonism. All of us should guiltlessly seek out and enjoy harmless physical sensations (such as sex and gustatory pleasures); but, because we will probably not die tomorrow, some degree of moderation in our eating, drinking, and merrymaking may be a safer course of action.
In addition to stressing the concept of future consequences of our actions, Ellis emphasizes the equality between self-interest and social interest; that is, what is good for us is also good for our culture: "There is a very good answer to the question why one should love one's neighbor, or at least why one should take care not to harm him: namely, that only in so doing is one likely to build the kind of society in which one would best live oneself" (1962, p. 323). This doctrine is, of course, akin to the classic economic theory of "enlightened self-interest." By paying his workers five dollars per day, Henry Ford ensured they would have enough money to buy his automobiles.
But though Ellis does present a philosophy on which all decisions to act ought to be grounded, his credo is relatively abstract, so the dictates of what specifically constitutes rational behavior are open to wide interpretation. Furthermore, in his classic text Ellis (1962) does not provide the counselor with a technology or even a procedural description for helping clients resolve a decision.
In a more recent book, The Civilized Couple's Guide to Extra-Marital Adventure, which was designed for lay reading (no pun intended), Ellis (1973) addresses these issues indirectly. We are told, for example, that "civilized adultery" may be a very rational activity. In fact the opening chapter is entitled "Extramarital adventure: Almost everybody is doing it." In a subsequent chapter ("To be or not to be an extramarital adventurer: That is the question") Ellis examines a number of factors to consider before making such a decision. These include gauging and analyzing your motives, dealing with feelings of shame and guilt (You shouldn't have any; they're irrational!), and using a "hedonistic calculus" in which facts are considered along with the advantages and disadvantages of each alternative. Finally, should one decide to embark on a course of extramarital adventure, one must make another decisionshould one be honest with one's spouse? After marshaling the opinions of numerous experts, Ellis generally recommends "no" (for reasons that, incidentally, may or may not be entirely rational).
Thus Ellis does recommend engaging in a number of preparatory steps prior to making a decision. The gathering of relevant information and the consideration of advantages and disadvantages are components that tie Ellis's views to those of most other decision theorists. But though some of the components may be present, the process is rather incomplete and unsystematic. No formal sequence of counselor activities is provided.
Ellis does apparently allow for the possibility of more than one "rational" choice. However, it is rather difficult to read his book on extramarital sex and come away with the notion that monogamy could ever be anything but a stifling compromise.
Finally, there is the matter of intrusive counselor values--a factor that cannot be dismissed as irrational drivel (see chapter 6). Ellis's system demands that the therapist directly attack the client's irrational beliefs, a procedure most counselors--behaviorally inclined or otherwise-would support from a cost- perspective. Although the irrationality of certain client self-statements may be obvious to everyone, just what constitutes a rational substitute may not be at all clear. Ellis is not above advice giving or arguing for a particular alternative such as secrecy from one's spouse in the matter of extramarital sex. But Ellis's utilities may differ widely from those of his clients and other rational emotive counselors
Essentially, then, Ellis has provided the counselor with a very useful framework for removing clients from discomforting emotional states. Although his conceptualizations have stimulated much behavioral counseling theory, research, and practice, his work only indirectly and imperfectly addresses the topic of decision-making counseling.
Facebook, Myspace, Blogs For Counseling
Whether counselors are working with pre-teens, adolescents, or adults – knowing how to use social networking sites like MySpace,blogspot,friendster,twitter,tagged,flixster and Facebook will provide professionals with a tool to better connect with clients. The following are some ideas on ways to use MySpace,blogspot,friendster,twitter,tagged,flixster and Facebook in counseling.
Counselors Should Become Fluent
Especially for counselors working with the adolescent population, it is extremely important to be fluent in sites like MySpace,blogspot,friendster,twitter,tagged,flixster and Facebook. Almost all teenagers are socially connected via these sites, and if counselors are unfamiliar with the culture, the systems, and the nuances of these sites – it will be difficult for the adolescent to easily connect with the counselor.
Counselor should consider making their own MySpace and Facebook profiles. Most people learn best by doing, and learning to negotiate these sites will provide professionals with the language and familiarity necessary for holding a genuine conversation with adolescents who live and breathe these sites daily.
Should Counselors Add Clients as Friends?
This is a good ethical question, and counselors should be reminded that it is unethical to maintain a dual relationship with any client. An online relationship in addition to the counseling relationship can most definitely be seen as a dual relationship. It’s one thing to encourage clients to share their information, but it’s another thing to have access to what they display on their profile at any time. To play it safe, respect the boundary and explain to clients the ethical rules of dual relationships.
Use MySpace/Facebook in the Session
With a little creativity, the effective counselor should be able to come up with many ways to use these sites in the session. To explore a client’s profile during a session, it is imperative that the client trust the counselor and not feel coerced into sharing this information. Always make it a safe environment where it’s okay for the client to decline.
Counselors Should Become Fluent
Especially for counselors working with the adolescent population, it is extremely important to be fluent in sites like MySpace,blogspot,friendster,twitter,tagged,flixster and Facebook. Almost all teenagers are socially connected via these sites, and if counselors are unfamiliar with the culture, the systems, and the nuances of these sites – it will be difficult for the adolescent to easily connect with the counselor.
Counselor should consider making their own MySpace and Facebook profiles. Most people learn best by doing, and learning to negotiate these sites will provide professionals with the language and familiarity necessary for holding a genuine conversation with adolescents who live and breathe these sites daily.
Should Counselors Add Clients as Friends?
This is a good ethical question, and counselors should be reminded that it is unethical to maintain a dual relationship with any client. An online relationship in addition to the counseling relationship can most definitely be seen as a dual relationship. It’s one thing to encourage clients to share their information, but it’s another thing to have access to what they display on their profile at any time. To play it safe, respect the boundary and explain to clients the ethical rules of dual relationships.
Use MySpace/Facebook in the Session
With a little creativity, the effective counselor should be able to come up with many ways to use these sites in the session. To explore a client’s profile during a session, it is imperative that the client trust the counselor and not feel coerced into sharing this information. Always make it a safe environment where it’s okay for the client to decline.
Using Webinar For Counseling
What is a webinar?
A webinar is an interactive presentation that is transmitted over the web. Unlike webcasts, webinars allow you to watch a presentation online and interact by phone or keyboard with questions and commentary.
A webinar is an interactive presentation that is transmitted over the web. Unlike webcasts, webinars allow you to watch a presentation online and interact by phone or keyboard with questions and commentary.
Korean Drama's?
You can find torrents for dramas here:
http://www.d-addicts.com/forum/torrents.…
http://silentregrets.com/
http://isohunt.com/torrents/
Also, you can watch dramas on all these sites (which I prefer):
aznv http://aznv.tv/en/ (The best one in my opinion. You can stream full episodes without breaks here, but it requires registration. Don't worry though, it's free and painless. This is the main site I use for watching dramas.)
Mysoju http://www.mysoju.com/
Crunchyroll http://www.crunchyroll.com/
http://www.veoh.com/
http://chinkymovies.blogspot.com/ (For downloading dramas)
Youtube http://www.youtube.com/
Dailymotion http://www.dailymotion.com/us
http://vdostreams.com/
http://www.watchdrama.com/
http://www.d-addicts.com/forum/torrents.…
http://silentregrets.com/
http://isohunt.com/torrents/
Also, you can watch dramas on all these sites (which I prefer):
aznv http://aznv.tv/en/ (The best one in my opinion. You can stream full episodes without breaks here, but it requires registration. Don't worry though, it's free and painless. This is the main site I use for watching dramas.)
Mysoju http://www.mysoju.com/
Crunchyroll http://www.crunchyroll.com/
http://www.veoh.com/
http://chinkymovies.blogspot.com/ (For downloading dramas)
Youtube http://www.youtube.com/
Dailymotion http://www.dailymotion.com/us
http://vdostreams.com/
http://www.watchdrama.com/
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